‘No one talked about mental health and everyone around us was distracted by her unhealthy coping strategies,’ says Marnie & Michael owner and mother of two Jennifer St. John
So the Marnie & Michael founder opted to create a social enterprise devoted to cultivating a supportive virtual mental health community, which includes donating 15% of all profits from her Penetanguishene-based artisan handbag business to mental health charities and initiatives.
“My Mom was basically living the majority of her life with mental illness,” St. John tells MidlandToday.
“She was not diagnosed until she was 52 and she passed away just before her 62nd birthday. So for the last 10 years, she lived a life that was more indicative of where she wanted to be.”
Growing up with a bipolar mother, St. John experienced the traumatic highs and lows and lack of stability when raised in a family with mental illness and had access to little support, if any.
The illness also played a part in her parents’ (Marnie and Michael) eventual breakup.
“It was just a rollercoaster. They kind of came in and out of each other’s lives,” St. John says, noting that they were together for about 15 years at the later stages of their lives.
“The love was always there.”
st. John says her mother’s illness also caused an unsettled home-life for her and her siblings. This included many moves over the years where the children were forced to pick up and seemingly start their young lives anew in a different town with no friends.
“We couldn’t really talk about what was going on,” she says. “I definitely felt very alone on this journey.”
st. John recounts how one of these moves included crossing the border into the United States where her mother married an American man, a union that didn’t last.
“I’m not really from one spot,” she says. “In late high school, we settled in Orillia.”
And now as a mother of two, who has created a stable and loving home with her husband of 22 years Murray Smith, St. John wants to give back to help other children and families who might be going through circumstances similar to the ones she lived through as a child.
She says the bottom line is that mental illness is hard on everyone.
“It’s hard for those suffering the illness and for those loving the person who is suffering,” St. John explains.
“She (her mother) had six children by her mid-twenties, my childhood impacted by traumatic leaving highs and lows and left reeling from her impulsive life-changing decisions.
“No one talked about mental health and everyone around us was distracted by her unhealthy coping strategies.”
st. John says the only constant in their lives was instability.
“We were shamed into saying nothing; keeping our home-life a close secret,” she says. “I am determined to be a part of the conversation and space that is changing this.”